When you are tapped into the unconditional love of ‘All That Is’ you are tapped into your true self. And when you know that, nothing in this world can touch you.
Gordana Biernat makes her home in Sweden. Her preferred method for an interview to the States is Skype. No phoners for her. She wants to look into your eyes while she talks to you. When our session began, I couldn’t help but blurt out that she is even more beautiful than in her photographs. She thanked me and said, “ So are you! I do feel beautiful from the inside, and I think everyone that is connected to their core are experienced as beautiful people. That’s why I say ‘so are you.’ I can sense it. There’s something in the energy coming from you.”
I set my sights on profiling Gordana after I became one of her Twitter followers. She has close to 375,000 of them. Her tweets are sound bites on the perception of reality and consciousness. Although simple, they resonate with the heart as truth. Just ask Oprah. She included Gordana in her SuperSoul 100 Teachers – a group of awakened leaders and visionaries who are using their voices and talent to elevate humanity. Her book, #KnowtheTruth was published in 2017 to wide acclaim.
After talking to her, it was clear that she was not raised to be the empowered women she is today. So many of the people I’ve interviewed for this series were launched by beautiful, supportive families. Not Gordana. She was brought up under the regime of a harsh father. He believed the only role for a women was to be in service to the patriarchy. When she was four months old, he pressured her mother to give Gordana to her aunt in Serbia to raise. That abandonment turned out to be a blessing for Gordana. Her aunt was a beautiful soul. “She was amazing. I loved that woman because she knew exactly who she was. She was a strong woman. She was my father, my mother, my everything. When my parents came to take me back to Sweden, when I was six, I really didn’t want to go. I couldn’t fit in with my parents, I didn’t feel them.”
Thus began the dark years of Gordana’s youth.
“My father was a very dominant man. He thought that his way of seeing reality was the only way of seeing reality. I was a girl. That meant I shouldn’t have an education. I should be in the kitchen. I had to do exactly what he wanted me to do.” In her spare time (which she didn’t have much of), she read. She loved wondering about metaphysical things. Where do the stars come from? Who am I? Why am I here?
One of the most misleading beliefs we have in our society is that our thoughts do not matter. The truth is that thoughts become matter. – Gordana Biernat
One crisp, cold winter night when Gordana was eleven she lay in her bed pondering.
She couldn’t fall asleep so she allowed her imagination to take her to the outer rings of the Universe. “I wanted to see where the night sky ended. If I pushed my mind, could I see what was beyond it? The more I pushed, the more galaxies and stars popped up.”
She thought the ‘real’ night sky may give her a clue. She looked through her window, over the rooftops, but there was no ending in site. “That’s when it hit me! The stars out there and the stars in my mind are made of the same stuff. There is no difference between the thoughts inside my head and in the reality outside it.”
That realization sent a tingling through Gordana’s body. Everything in our physical existence was a thought first. Everything. She knew what she had experienced wasn’t safe to share with anyone. It must be her secret. Grasping how powerful her mind is helped Gordana survive those dark years. Even so, growing up under her father’s regime left her exhausted and disheartened.
When Gordana was 19, her life took on a new direction. Seeing her future husband, Gregor, standing in a doorway changed everything. “When I first saw him, I could feel my heart jump. I heard a voice in my head say, ‘It’s him!’ which means I must have recognized him. We both felt a connection on a soul level that remains to this day”
Even a bad childhood is a treasure because you can always use it in order to help others. – Gordana Biernat
Feeling loved and appreciated by Gregor gave Gordana the space to let go of the anger she had for her father. To keep the bitterness at bay, she had to distance herself from him. When she moved out of her father’s house, he was furious. She was no longer alive to him. Gordana now sees his reaction as a gift. “I think that the years of silence from his side were one of the best things that he could have done. It gave me time to heal.”
Gordana gives Gregor much of the credit for who she is today. “He has been like an angel watching over me. Every single day he has reminded me of my beautiful soul. When I talked to my husband about what I grew up with, and he saw it, I could release it. I didn’t have to keep it anymore.”
Making the shift from the worldview she had been indoctrinated with under her father’s rule to who she is today happened over time. Gordana eventually came to the realization that by absorbing her father’s belief system she was creating his reality. Not hers. She decided she must begin to trust the “soft inner voice of her soul.”
Do not pretend. Because in the end, being YOU is what you came here to do. – Gordana Biernat
At 31, another person came on the scene that pushed Gordana’s healing to an even higher level. Her son, Hubert Maximilian, was born. She remembers the first time she held him in her arms and looked into his eyes. “I saw the best version of myself in his eyes. I felt that if I don’t know who I am, how will I help this child know who he is in the world? I made a sacred vow to myself that I have to be authentic. And that’s when I started this journey back to finding who am I and why I am here.”
Going from being a new mother to becoming a thought leader took years in the making. When Hubert became more independent, Gordana began a career working as a facilitator of leadership workshops. Although her job was lucrative, she could feel that she had strayed from her true self. All the material she had to write and memorize was stifling. She longed to speak from her heart.
One day, while sitting in their garden Gordana told Gregor of her frustrations. His response was for her to share her truth with the world on Twitter. Revealing her soul on social media was a stretch for her. It was a chancy move, but she was ready to take a leap.
“I was thinking, ‘Oh my God! If I tweet my unfiltered thoughts then I won’t have a job anymore.’ But I did just that, and it actually set me free. Now I’m doing exactly what I want to do. My purpose has become to help people realize how powerful and unique they are. I don’t need to memorize things. I can just allow my truth to flow through me. Following my inner guidance, following my passion is what lead me to this.”
Another one of Gordana’s passions is her family. She has never questioned that spending time with her husband and son are part of her soul’s purpose. “My love for for them is primary. For me there is nothing in this world that comes before that.” Nourishing that love adds to her energy. It leaves an opening for even more creativity to flow through her.
Thinking is a brain activity; knowing is a gut feeling. – Gordana Biernat
Gordana believes that we all have an inner guidance system. It is our connection to our Source. Coming from our center is what allows our light to shine. No matter how disconnected we are we can all learn how to rekindle that flame. In her book she says, “Every time you deny a desire, ignore a passion, neglect a true calling or silence a truth within you, your spirit fades. Follow your bliss!” Taking our cues from the outside is a slow death. We miss our life’s purpose when we do.
In her early years, Gordana viewed the world through a portal of fear. She believed if she wasn’t afraid that meant she was happy. She has outgrown that philosophy.“Today I understand that life isn’t about dodging fear. Life is about actively seeking joy.” Following your bliss and following your inner guidance are the same thing. Living from the heart puts your life on a whole new trajectory. The clouds part to reveal a future without limits. #ShineOn
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Thanks for sharing Sue. Nice to think that twitter is used by someone like this. I shared with Kathy. Hope all is well with you.
Thanks for sharing this with Kathy! Gordana is right up her ally. xo
Thanks Sue, So nice to know Twitter is not just for politicians. I shared this with Kathy. Hope all is well with you.
Thanks for sharing, Sue – I enjoyed reading about Gondana Biernat; her ideas feel truthful to me. Great to see and hear about your creative endeavors! 🙂
Thanks so much, Cathy! I’m really honored that you read my posts. I learned so much by writing about Gordana. She is such a beautiful soul.
Sue, I’m glad you’re back! Have missed your blog posts. I didn’t know of Gordana’s work and am glad for the introduction. I especially like her remark, “Life is about actively seeking joy.” It took me awhile to come to the realization that we’re meant to enjoy our lives, but it’s true. This has been my year of seeking “joie de vivre.”
Thanks for reading my posts. It means so much. I am with you on your commitment about seeking joy. How did it take me so long to you realize it’s my birth right?! xo
Interesting woman! I’d never heard of her before but you did such a great write up I wondered how I hadn’t heard of her. Thanks for introducing me to a fascinating person.
Thanks, Amie! So happy, in my small way, to share Gordana with the world. xo
I didn’t know Gordana and her story, her work, her development. Nice to know she managed to get out from a bad situation and was able to develop herself as she did.
I would like many more women manage to do it!
Thank you for being “a he for she,” Robert!
Dear Sue, I have missed your posts – thank you for sharing Gordana’s inspiring story! Blessings, Lois
Thank you, Lois! I’ve missed all of my dear readers. I’m glad to be back! xo
Thanks Sue; I’ve missed you. And thank you for sharing with us all this amazing woman with such interesting & positive views. Very much appreciated. Hope all is well in your world.
Thanks for sharing Gordana with us. I share the same kind of thoughts on my website. I traveled a similar route to get where I am today. I will watch for more of your posts.
Thanks, Michele. I’m glad my post about Gordana resonated with you. I will checkout your website. xo
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Hello Sue, I haven’t heard from you for some tome and thought maybe I had lost your posts. It’s good to read you again and I love this one! What a wise woman to survive her childhood, met her soul’s partner and discovered who she really is and what she can offer the world. Your drawing is wonderful, as all of them have been. Welcome back to my email!!
I just saw this, Carol! Thank you so much for your kind words. I’m sorry I didn’t respond sooner.